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c) Warn your children ahead of time that if anyone gets hurt playing war games, those games will no longer be allowed.
d) Most of all, just keep talking about how dangerous weapons are. Point out the violence taking place around us, and explain how the world would be a safer place if people did not use guns. Understand that sometimes children act out their fears and aggression through war games. Listen, explain, and demonstrate non-violent ways to solve problems and express anger. It takes time for a child to understand, but eventually the message will come across.

3) Your response may be appropriate for a preschooler but not for my seven and ten year old boys. All their friends have war toys, and my boys want them too. How can I deal with my situation?
a) Acquire war toys only when the child wants them. Do not buy them voluntarily
b)
Preferably, the child should spend his own money.
c) Ware toys should be the least violent kind. Avoid, for example, bazookas.
d)
An adult should be present during their war games and
encourage the children not to point weapons directly at others.
e)
Even more than with )preschoolers, talk openly and hon-
estly about the real dangers of guns, tanks, and missiles. This needs to be stressed constantly.

4) At our grandmother’s funeral the minister told us that she is now in the Pure Land. Our eight-year-old wanted to know what that meant. How, can we explain it to her?
She is safe and well: I believe that your grandma is safe and sound in a ‘place’ not very far from all of us. She has found peace there. And this place is the “Pure Land” which the minister spoke about. I don’t know everything bout this Pure Land. But I trust in
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